Putting Ego and Jealousy in Check

In my opinion, men’s biggest downfall is ego, and women’s biggest downfall is jealousy.

World war was created by egos and jealousies.  Friendships are ruined because of E & J.  Families break apart because of E & J.  Companies fall because of E & J.  People would kill each other for the emotions triggered by E & J.  Even love cannot survive the danger of E & J. It fascinates and shocks me that we are not able to learn from our past history and keep making the same mistakes!

I learned this freshman year in college, in a course called  “Woman in Art and Literature.”  It was so interesting to me that Jealousy played a key role in ruining relationships and friendships. We learned about great women who were amazingly talented and accomplished in their own field — but all through their lives,  petty Jealousy played a major role in their downfalls and sadness in both their professional and personal lives. No matter how intelligent or smart they were, they could not help themselves from the influence of Jealousy.

Men’s ego is even scarier, because when you look at world wars or other devastating disasters, they all start from somebody’s ego.  This is not just a bad thing, this is something that we need to do something about.  When I look at what’s going on now in this world with people like Saddam Hussein, Kim Il Sung … tyrants who evoke thoughts of Hitler and his vision of one superior race, or Caesar who was obsessed with power. This world is not safe! We are not safe!

Even in my social circles, I see so much E & J and how it strains relationships and friendships.  I am incredibly fortunate to have a family who gives me unconditional love.  They praise me when I do well, and support me 100% in what I do.  I guess that is one of the reasons why I subconciously choose to be with friends who are supportive and giving.  Instead of being influenced by E & J, my friends are often like mentors who are successful and confident in themselves to share and give to other people — especially when they see that you are a good person and strive to be successful.

Egos and Jealousies must have been created for us from the dark side of our conscience and morals.  We were all born with these feelings, so it depends on us on how we’re able to deal with those feelings during our lives.  I’ve also known and felt feelings of E & J just like everyone else.  I have learned that these are not the healthiest feelings to live with.  It is toxic and dangerous for yourself and others around you.  I have learned to be bigger minded and concentrate on my life by accepting my role in it.  I feel that most things in life are your destiny, so do your best to live a good life. The most important thing is to accept whatever God or superior beings have given you, and do your best to live your life in the fullest.

I must say I have experienced E & J just like everyone else has in their lives.  I choose to be humble and supportive instead of spreading E & J.  It is what I have learned from my parents and in school.  Good and bad are always with us, every day, every moment in your lives.  It is the choices we make in those moments that make us who we are.

I do think we learn all good things through education.  Why don’t we reflect and learn?  We have so many resources and history to learn from.  Why can’t we be supportive and encourage our friends, colleagues and neighbors when they do well?  Oppress those negative feelings, and replace them with healthy, happy positive feelings to better ourselves and go forward.

I like to say that it is much easier to live a clean, good life than an ugly ego/jealousy-driven life.  Support the ones who do well, and the world will be a happier and peaceful place to live.  When we can live our lives without E & J, then we can focus more on ourselves to live healthy, and we can all get along in peace and harmony.