by Tiffani on June 29, 2009
In my opinion, men’s biggest downfall is ego, and women’s biggest downfall is jealousy.
World war was created by egos and jealousies. Friendships are ruined because of E & J. Families break apart because of E & J. Companies fall because of E & J. People would kill each other for the emotions triggered by E & J. Even love cannot survive the danger of E & J. It fascinates and shocks me that we are not able to learn from our past history and keep making the same mistakes!
I learned this freshman year in college, in a course called “Woman in Art and Literature.” It was so interesting to me that Jealousy played a key role in ruining relationships and friendships. We learned about great women who were amazingly talented and accomplished in their own field — but all through their lives, petty Jealousy played a major role in their downfalls and sadness in both their professional and personal lives. No matter how intelligent or smart they were, they could not help themselves from the influence of Jealousy.
Men’s ego is even scarier, because when you look at world wars or other devastating disasters, they all start from somebody’s ego. This is not just a bad thing, this is something that we need to do something about. When I look at what’s going on now in this world with people like Saddam Hussein, Kim Il Sung … tyrants who evoke thoughts of Hitler and his vision of one superior race, or Caesar who was obsessed with power. This world is not safe! We are not safe!
Even in my social circles, I see so much E & J and how it strains relationships and friendships. I am incredibly fortunate to have a family who gives me unconditional love. They praise me when I do well, and support me 100% in what I do. I guess that is one of the reasons why I subconciously choose to be with friends who are supportive and giving. Instead of being influenced by E & J, my friends are often like mentors who are successful and confident in themselves to share and give to other people — especially when they see that you are a good person and strive to be successful.
Egos and Jealousies must have been created for us from the dark side of our conscience and morals. We were all born with these feelings, so it depends on us on how we’re able to deal with those feelings during our lives. I’ve also known and felt feelings of E & J just like everyone else. I have learned that these are not the healthiest feelings to live with. It is toxic and dangerous for yourself and others around you. I have learned to be bigger minded and concentrate on my life by accepting my role in it. I feel that most things in life are your destiny, so do your best to live a good life. The most important thing is to accept whatever God or superior beings have given you, and do your best to live your life in the fullest.
I must say I have experienced E & J just like everyone else has in their lives. I choose to be humble and supportive instead of spreading E & J. It is what I have learned from my parents and in school. Good and bad are always with us, every day, every moment in your lives. It is the choices we make in those moments that make us who we are.
I do think we learn all good things through education. Why don’t we reflect and learn? We have so many resources and history to learn from. Why can’t we be supportive and encourage our friends, colleagues and neighbors when they do well? Oppress those negative feelings, and replace them with healthy, happy positive feelings to better ourselves and go forward.
I like to say that it is much easier to live a clean, good life than an ugly ego/jealousy-driven life. Support the ones who do well, and the world will be a happier and peaceful place to live. When we can live our lives without E & J, then we can focus more on ourselves to live healthy, and we can all get along in peace and harmony.
by Tiffani Kim on May 18, 2009
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Feng Shui isn’t just about placing furniture in the right places, in my opinion. I think true Feng Shui originates from how people treat you, and what kind of energy people give off to each other.
It doesn’t matter how beautiful the environment is. If people’s energy within that environment isn’t positive, it will ruin the entire experience. You can feel that energy, positive or negative, the moment you walk into a surrounding.
Wherever you find yourself, in a friend’s home, the workplace or dining out in a restaurant; the atmosphere and the feeling you gain from others around you has as much impact on your experience as does the physical environment itself.
The energy has to be genuine. It’s very hard for people to “pretend” to be happy if they are not. When you truly have a happy place where people are happy with what they do, it feels so good to be there. You find yourself wanting to be part of it, and from there, your healing process begins on the right foot.
To me, health and beauty are intertwined - they come from within and are bound together. The process of allowing one’s health and beauty to improve can only happen if they find themselves in a peaceful surrounding which is fostered by people with an energy focused on healing and who are truly happy in helping others.
That’s what I want people to feel when they walk into the Tiffani Kim Institute. It’s not just a place of peace for my clients, but for myself as well — and that’s the power of true Feng Shui.
Tiffani Kim Griffith
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by Tiffani Kim on May 9, 2009
I want my mom to stay healthy and happy, because if she gets sick and had to leave this world, I’m going with her. My mom’s love has been the single most dependable thing in my life. Her unconditional love is very dear to me. Once you’ve experienced unconditional love, you become completely secure and confident.
I’ve seen many people look for love all their lives, without knowing what they’re truly searching for. How can people give unconditional love when they’ve never felt it? Such people wind up looking for love in all the wrong places. That is so sad to me!
I never had a need to look for love. I know I have it with my mother, and I know I will always have it. Our love for each other is so strong, we would not hesitate to die for each other — and we wouldn’t even need to think about it beforehand. I find it so sad to see people going through life’s journey without their mother’s unconditional love. That maternal bond is something that even animals have; it’s part of their instinct to protect. It’s amazing that sometimes animals can share this type of bond so much better than some humans can!
When I see my mom, I just feel that everything will always be OK. We look at each other, and we just smile. Our connection lets us feel each other’s pain and happiness. What a wonderful, warm, cozy feeling it is to be loved! I can still feel the toasty but soft warmth of my mom’s hands. I’ll always feel her kind and caring touch.
My mom tells wonderful stories; inspiring tales of other people. She taught me how to be kind, compassionate and give to others. She taught me how to feel other people’s pain and humility. She also told me to always surround yourself with people who love and support you sincerely. Most importantly, she always strived to help me become a descent human being and a beautiful-minded woman. I always have listen to my mom because she is older and wiser. Most of all she is always right!
When I hear about people’s funerals filled with mourners regretting all the things they should have done before it was too late, I tell myself, I will never regret not being able to make my mom happy. I am going to give her anything she needs, because she’s done the same for me all her life. Never asking for anything, but always giving when I needed comfort or support.
My mom says everyday is a Mother’s day for her. It is for me and it should be like that for all the mothers in the world! I’ve always wanted to be like my mom, and I cannot imagine my life without her.
I need my mom in my life! I love her so!
Tiffani Kim Griffith
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by Tiffani Kim on April 20, 2009
So many thoughts go through my mind every minute of the day…., I see, I reflect and I absorb my surroundings all day long. When an inspiration/idea/situation comes to my mind, I try to put it in perspective based upon our human history and wisdom, wondering what those who have come before me would feel, think and do with this situation. This process helps me learn how I can become a better human being.
I don’t want to go through my life just living and breathing. I want to touch, feel,taste and smell everything in life. Joy, pain, sadness, happiness, love, hate…I have experienced it all and want more each and every day. Unless you allow yourself to experience these feelings, you’ll never know how others feel. Once you have endured pain in as much as it is, only then will you have more compassion, understanding and empathy for those around you. It’s what separates us from animals!
Having shared my outlook about life and ideas to my friends, they were inspired and wanted to hear more. I always enjoy giving my advice and opinion on human drama. Perhaps if I share my philosophical views and continued “metamorphosis” I can somehow help others and they can help the others. That is my goal… if I can help someone with one act of kindness or offer insight that could benefit them then I believe I am making a contribution to our society. After all isn’t that what we are all here to do, to contribute and leave our world a better place than how we found it? To me that is the ultimate accomplishment.
To succeed, to fail, to be happy, to hate, to love, to be sad … all of these are the outcomes of choices we make every minute of the day. Our lives are what we want our lives to be, no matter (and often in spite of) the obstacles we face. We are the power and we are the creator of what this world would become.
I have had the opportunities, challenges and blessings to make my life what I’ve wanted it to become and I continue to learn and grow each and every day through my business, my artwork and my passions for life.
I believe very strongly, living healthy is not a luxury; it is a lifestyle…a choice of how we want our life to be. Yet the aches and pains of our increasingly stressful world are taking its toll on our minds, bodies and spirits. External forces are literally making us ill and leaving us feeling trapped, vulnerable even hopeless. For my part I seek to help others to choose healthier and more enriched lives and to believe that we all have the ability to control the choices we make. I want to help the others to find a harmony and balance in their lives by being healthy for their body, mind and spirit.
Still, everything starts from somewhere…and here begins a new chapter for me..sharing my insights, experiences and what I have learned along the way. Our past make us who we are today, our choices make us who will become tomorrow. I invite you to join me in the journey to be always looking forward and to never look back.
Tiffani Kim Griffith
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